Happy the man, and happy he alone,
He who can call today his own:
He who, secure within, can say,
Tomorrow do thy worst, for I have lived today.
Be fair or foul or rain or shine
The joys I have possessed, in spite of fate, are mine.
Not Heaven itself upon the past has power,
But what has been, has been, and I have had my hour.
— Horace, tr. Dryden
There’s a great post at the Badger Hut on approaching. It’s been said a million times, but the simplest truths are the most important. If you don’t approach, you won’t succeed with women. If you don’t swing the bat, you can’t hit the ball. Sure, you could get a walk, or be hit by a pitch, but you can’t plan on getting that lucky.
This is not a gender neutral matter. Our parent’s generation, having lived through the sexual and feminist revolutions, sometimes taught us that gender roles were obsolete and that girls would approach as much as men do. They were wrong. To make things worse, sexual harassment mania in the schools gives boys – especially the obedient to authority type – the impression that escalating with a girl without her prior invitation is impermissible. Taking this attitude is a sure road to celibacy. Women hardly ever approach or escalate. That’s up to the man.