Research has shown that the average of female faces is far more attractive than the average female face. That is, if you average the features of many average girls, you get a pretty girl. This really isn’t that surprising, since averaging allows defects to cancel out, and you get a face which, if it isn’t striking, at least has no glaring flaws.
I wonder if the same isn’t true of women’s personalities as well. Sometimes a boring girl without any annoying personality traits sounds very appealing. Yet it’s girls with striking though (slightly!) imperfect faces that draw me in, and girls who appealed to me even in their flaws that I remember.
When you are old and gray and full of sleep
And nodding by the fire, take down this book,
And slowly read, and dream of the soft look
Your eyes had once, and of their shadows deep;
How many loved your moments of glad grace,
And loved your beauty with love false or true;
But one man loved the pilgrim soul in you,
And loved the sorrows of your changing face.
And bending down beside the glowing bars,
Murmur, a little sadly, how love fled
And paced upon the mountains overhead,
And hid his face amid a crowd of stars.