There’s been some stirring around the manosphere recently on a debate between the game camp, represented by Frost and Paul Elam of the MRA school of thought. Here are my thoughts, as a man whose relations with women have improved dramatically thanks to learning about game, and as a man who agrees with many of the goals of MRA’s.
There’s no getting around the fact that most mens advocacy sites come off as a bunch of angry guys with nothing better to so than whine on the internet. Even when they have the facts on their side, they don’t put together an account that ordinary guys could refer people to without being afraid of being embarrassed by association. There’s nothing wrong with venting per se, but the whole ethos is off-putting for guys who like to get things done.
Given that background, I want to give some real credit here to some guys who actually manage to be professionals: the false rape society. These guys are actually sane enough that I can give the link to people I know in real life, and trust that I won’t lose people’s respect.
Extremism has its value, and it can achieve things – look at how successful radical feminism has been. Still, rational moderation is an essential virtue. Radical feminism was able to succeed first, because chivalrous men thought they shouldn’t oppose it, and second, because it was able to co-opt an agenda advanced by much more reasonable people. All the radical whining in the world won’t win institutional support for mens’ issues. At some point you need to convince dispassionate bystanders, and thus far MRA’s have done a very poor job of this.
It’s natural for men not to support such whiners. Although organized whining has been a great success for feminists, most men correctly believe that we are above such tactics, and that to stoop so low would be to sacrifice our birthright of the virtue inherited from thousands of years of male sacrifice for the pottage of victim politics. Such scruples are admirable, but leave us in need of a course of action.
While a greater vision of mens issues is useful, the kind of single issue advocacy that the false rape society does, backed up by hard facts, calm analysis, and total mastery of the issues, is the best way to influence public policy. Single issue advocacy is the most effective wedge we have, and can be leveraged into a broader critique of institutionalized feminism.