Can A Slut Be Redeemed?

Years of riding the carousel destroy everything that is attractive in women. Nevertheless, some women continue to wonder whether they might be able to simply cast off their promiscuous histories and be born again. They whine, “Is there no second chance?”

The answer, surprisingly enough, is yes – but probably not. Redemption requires real transformation; it is never an easy thing.

The first requirement is true repentance. A women would genuinely need to regret her sexual past, not just its effects. She would have to regret what she did, not just that she got caught, so to speak. A woman who thinks her promiscuous past is o.k. is bad relationship material.

Still repentance is not enough. For a woman to recover the purity and innocence of her soul is very difficult. The mind has great power, but undoing the effects of one’s history is one of the hardest things is can be asked to do. Yeats may have written that


all hatred driven hence,
The soul recovers radical innocence
And learns at last that it is self-delighting,
Self-appeasing, self-affrighting

but for a woman with a promiscuous past to drive out all hatred is far beyond what is normally possible, and requires exceptional character at the very least – not a common trait of sluts.

Consider the example of Mary Magdalene. Here is La Tour’s painting of her.

She contemplates her own mortality, engages in self flagellation, and spends long nights in regret. Transforming the soul is a serious business.

Of course, Mary Magdalene may have been redeemed in the religious sense, but she wasn’t exactly redeemed by winning the love of a good man. She ended up looking like this:

No woman should assume that she can do better.

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18 Responses to Can A Slut Be Redeemed?

  1. deti says:

    Pechorin:

    This is interesting to me for a lot of reasons, mostly personal. Here’s an edited comment I left at Dalrock’s a while back on his post “No Rings for Sluts”:

    I’ve known three kinds of “reformed sluts”. The first is the vast majority. She left the slut lifestlyle because she got kicked off the carousel, but has had no change of heart.

    The second is almost always a churchgoer and “talks the talk”. Her “reformation” is false, because she rationalizes away her past as “youthful indiscretion” and demands that she not be judged for it.

    The third is rare, but can be found. She is a true reformed slut and could possibly be worthy of marriage. She has, in my estimation, the following characteristics:

    1. A slut can reform herself but it takes enormous work and dedication to leave that life behind. She approaches quitting sluthood as akin to addiction recovery.
    She must completely repent and abandon the lifestyle and all its remnants. Her repentance must be genuine and her remorse heartfelt. She is candidly disgusted by her own past conduct, and will say so to her friends.

    2. She has to come to terms with all the consequences of that lifestyle. I know somw with incurable STDs. I know some with infertility issues. Because of those issues, they have willingly and gracefully accepted that because of their pasts, most will consider them unacceptable marriage material. They have worked through the bitterness and the issues that brought them to their current state and through the issues that led them to the slut lifeslyle in the first place.

    3. There must be a genuine, deep, and permanent change in her conduct, demeanor and lifestyle. That lasting change must be at least a year long without “relapse” and preferably longer. A year is a long time to play false with one’s life. The change manifests itself in nearly every area of her life: dress, makeup, hairstyle, industry, food and drink consumption, eschewing vulgar language, and adoption of a more demure and reverent demeanor,

    4. She rejects excuses and rationalization from sluts. She harshly judges the carousel lifestyle and those women who practice it, and she avoids its practitioners except to help bring them out of the lifestlyle. She does this largely because she knows exactly what it does to a woman. She knows, because she remembers all too well that she brought all those things upon herself.

    5. She has had a religious experience. Without getting too much into faith or doctrine, I don’t believe a slut can “reform” without faith. I don’t believe a slut can reform under her own power and will. The hamster is simply too strong.

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  3. Will S. says:

    @ Pechorin, and deti: Spot on, both post and comment.

    Around Christian blogs in the manosphere, one sees Christian young women who admit to ‘youthful indiscretions’, insist that’s behind them; then, in their lecturing men, and finger-pointing, one quickly realizes they have none of the grace and humility that truly penitent people have; they feel fit to hand down judgments upon others, make grand pronouncements, without knowing a damned thing about their personal circumstances. Pathetic. Worse, some like and support these people, giving them props.

  4. deti says:

    Indeed, Will. The difference seems to be that the false reformed slut no longer sluts, but says “how dare you judge me!”

    The truly reformed slut no longer sluts and says “I have already been judged by One far better than you and found to have fallen far short; yet I am redeemed through nothing I have done.”

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  6. CL says:

    She has had a religious experience. Without getting too much into faith or doctrine, I don’t believe a slut can “reform” without faith. I don’t believe a slut can reform under her own power and will. The hamster is simply too strong.

    This. Also, will power is what gets people into addictive behaviours in the first place – a wilfulness to do what one knows in one’s heart to be wrong. I suppose that’s what the hamster is, when you come down to it; simple wilfulness with justifications. The human will must be submitted to God in order to be overcome, which is easier said than done, especially with any form of addiction or ingrained habit.

  7. jack says:

    Sluttery is at core, based on a woman’s ability to abuse her sexual power over men.

    An equivalent in men would be to abuse our physical power over most women.

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  10. jim says:

    Excellent post. So many supposedly reformed sluts demanding from people to -effectively- shut up and marry them already! And God forbid if you don’t! You’re probably a self-righteous misogynist! LOL

  11. matt says:

    How dare you? What of the male slut? The mere term “slut” is questionable. Many, and I would say most, women who engage in sexual sin do so as a result of mistreatment or neglect: not being loved by their father for the most part. Sin begets sin. Many times those engaged in serial fornication do so out of a desire to be loved or appreciated. As misguided as this is, it is still driven by a desire to assuage pain or feelings of neglect. Are they therefore innocent? By no means; but, who are you to judge whether repentance is genuine or not? What of the man who views pornography? Many have been exposed to it at a tender age. Yes, they are guilty, but where is the condemnation of men in your discussion. What gives you the right to place such a harsh view on redemption. Redemption is a process….at least the process of mere mortals apprehending it is. I find this entire thread disgusting. Yes, I am a man. Men who are sluts, it would seem to me, are much more likely apt to be described by your diatribe. As to Jim….methinks you are a lost cause.

  12. Will S. says:

    Oh shut the hell up. None of us here care what you think, especially three years after this convo started. No-one has to talk about men in a discussion about women; the immorality of porn has no bearing on what we were discussing here. A slut is a slut, regardless of the reason; men can’t be sluts, because a slut is an easy lay, no achievement there, whereas a man has to put effort in to conquer a woman, and bend her to his will, sexually – unless he’s a natural, in which he’s called a stud. The man who manages to get lots of women has accomplished something, regardless of morality; the woman who opens her legs and lets in lots of men has accomplished nothing of value, and in fact has devalued herself, hence we look down on her, rightly. A key that opens many locks is a master key; a lock that can be opened by any key, is a lock of no value whatsoever. So it is with men and women. Men can’t be sluts; women can’t be studs. Sluts are only female, there are no male sluts, except for homos who open their asses or mouths for any fellow homo who passes by.

    We can think whatever we like; if you say who are we to judge, who are you to judge us? By what authority do you stand in judgment of us, you pathetic troll?

    Go away; nobody cares what you think. We’re all lost causes, by your metric, so stop preaching to us and wasting your breath.

  13. Will S. says:

    How dare you? Troll loser.

  14. Malaika says:

    Question: Where in the bible does it state that Mary Magdalene was a prostitute? Also, remember Old Testament Rahab, the harlot that betrayed her countrymen for Israel’s and God’s glory? Yeah, she ended up getting married after leaving that God-forsaken city of hers, and was also endowed with the honor of being counted among Jesus’ ancestors.

  15. Will S. says:

    You’re right, Malaika; it doesn’t say it anywhere; all we know of her is that she was a demoniac. The prostitute claim is just a Catholic fable, unsupported by Scripture. Like female angels with wings; Scripture only has angels that are male, with male names in the cases of those male, and they look like men, without wings mentioned. Another Catholic legend, unsubstantiated by God’s Word.

  16. Malaika says:

    Interesting.. I never noticed there weren’t any female angels mentioned in the bible. Thanks for the trivia.

    According to gotquestions.org, the lack of female angels is supported by the fact that only males are allowed to have authority in heaven, or something to that effect.

    http://www.gotquestions.org/angels-male-female.html

  17. matt says:

    Will, you are a pig. You apply a different set of standards regarding sexuality on men? How many women have you bent to your will? Sounds to me like you got burned somewhere along the way. Explains your hatred of women. The idiocy here is intuitively obvious to the most casual observer. Frightening that there are morons like you out there. You throw the word “troll” out because you can’t stand to hear a differing point of view. If you don’t want to hear it, don’t post your shit (and it is shit) on a public forum.

  18. Will S. says:

    A troll is someone who goes to pick a fight on a blog, and you are one.

    I’ve heard your kind before, make all the same accusations; if I can’t stand to hear it, as you say, it’s only because it’s so boring and old…

    Blah, blah blah…

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